Top 10 Sleep Tips for Kids…and Parents

Top 10 Sleep Tips for Kids...and ParentsIn regard to attitude, health and general well being nothing beats a good night sleep. I know at my house when we are not getting enough of the old shut eye things deteriorate quickly; tempers are quick to flare, work doesn’t get done and we all usually end up sick.

Rest is important! Even God rested after creating the universe.

How much is rest enough for our children? Generally speaking, babies need 14-15 hours of sleep per day, with sleep patterns beginning to be established at 4-5 months. Your baby’s three naps a day will typically decrease to two afternoon naps around 6 months. Toddlers need 12-14 hours of sleep per night with one nap during the day. Work your schedule around nap time. For the preschool crowd, ten to twelve hours of sleep are recommended.

In matters of rest, consistency helps. Determine a bedtime and try to stick to it. Your child’s internal clock will develop a pattern, which is exactly what is needed.

As children grow, a proper amount of sleep is necessary. Bodies are growing! Elementary school age children should be getting 10-11 hours a night and your teen still needs 8-9 hours to be fully rested. And sometimes more. If you have teens, you know exactly what I mean.

Top 10 Sleep Tips for Kids…and Parents

1. Develop a routine and keep it consistent. (Jammies on, teeth brushed, reading time, prayers, and kisses.) Include a time for quiet activities 30 minutes before bedtime to “set the stage” for bedtime.

2. Stick to a consistent bedtime.

3. Make your child’s bedroom a quiet and comfortable place to sleep.

4. Use the bed only for sleeping. Do not put a TV or computer in your child’s bedroom.

5. Limit food and drink before bedtime.

6. If your child has difficulty falling asleep, read books about bedtime. Have a cuddly friend (stuffed animal) that is really tired join in the story time.

7. Play soft music. This masks other household noise and is soothing.

8. Tuck your child into bed snugly for a feeling of security, using Scripture to remind your child of the Lord’s constant care.

9. Move bedtime by ten minutes each night to accommodate Daylight Savings Time on March 8, 2015.

10. Get to bed at a reasonable hour yourself. You’ll feel great and be better prepared for the day ahead.

In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety. 
Psalm 4:8

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The Proverbs Challenge for Lent

The Proverbs ChallengeToday is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of Lent. It’s a time to prepare our hearts and minds for Passion Week and Easter, ultimately growing closer to God. Many people give up something for Lent (chocolate, television, etc.) as a form of fasting. Sacrificing an item, pleasure or bad habit helps us to turn to ward God.

If you’ve chosen to not partake in an indulgence or give up a habit during Lent, great! But I’m proposing you and your family add something this year too. Dive into the Word of God.

Join me in the Proverbs Challenge! There are 31 chapters in Proverbs. Read a chapter a day with your family. This will take you right up to Holy Week, beginning on Palm Sunday.

Start the Proverbs Challenge with downloading the schedule and finding a time that works for your spouse and children. When Ryan and Eric were young, breakfast was our time for Bible study and devotions. A hot breakfast was the carrot! Maybe dinnertime or bedtime will be better for your family.

Today’s activity is from 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting to help us realize who we are as Christians. The activity is described on today’s post. You can link to the Ash Wednesday post and printable HERE.

Take turns reading the chapters or verses. Make the wise words into a prayer. For example, from Proverbs 1:2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding…  Lord, allow ______ to listen to Your Word, to attain wisdom and knowledge, to understand words of insight. Insert family members’ names into the prayer, or include the whole family by using “us” and “we”.

On Sundays, discuss where you’ve seen God move in the lives of your family members. What have your children learned about God’s Word? In what ways have each of you grown in wisdom and knowledge? Were there opportunities to tell other about God?

The Proverbs Challenge Schedule

February 18 Download A Christian’s Identity in Christ 
from 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
February 19 Proverbs 1
February 20 Proverbs 2
February 21 Proverbs 3
February 22  Sunday
February 23 Proverbs 4
February 24 Proverbs 5
February 25 Proverbs 6
February 26 Proverbs 7
February 27 Plant a Resurrection Garden
Directions will be posted at 1Corinthians13Parenting on February 27!
February 28 Proverbs 8
March 1   Sunday
March 2 Proverbs 9
March 3 Proverbs 10
March 4 Proverbs 11
March 5 Proverbs 12
March 6 Proverbs 13
March 7 Proverbs 14
March 8   Sunday
March 9 Proverbs 15
March 10 Proverbs 16
March 11 Proverbs 17
March 12 Proverbs 18
March 13 Proverbs 19
March 14 Proverbs 20
March 15   Sunday
March 16 Proverbs 21
March 17 Proverbs 22
March 18 Proverbs 23
March 19 Proverbs 24
March 20 Proverbs 25
March 21 Proverbs 26
March 22       Sunday
March 23 Proverbs 27
March 24 Proverbs 28
March 25 Proverbs 29
March 26 Proverbs 30
March 27 Proverbs 31
March 28 Download the Holy Week Guide,
No Greater Gift: A Family Guide to Passion Week and the Resurrection,
from 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
March 29       Palm Sunday

The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: 
for attaining wisdom and discipline;
for understanding words of insight; 
for acquiring a disciplined and prudent life,
doing what is right and just and fair; 
for giving prudence to the simple,
knowledge and discretion to the young– 
let the wise listen and add to their learning,
and let the discerning get guidance– 
for understanding proverbs and parables,
the sayings and riddles of the wise. 
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge,
but fools despise wisdom and discipline.

Proverbs 1:1-7

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day, a time to celebrate with family and friends we love. Download this printable, Love is patient, love is kind, to share with your family this Valentine’s Day.

May your day be filled with faith, hope, and love,
xo Becky

Love is Patient Valentine


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LAUNCHING… The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series

1C13P Series Launch Dear friends,
Those of you who know me well are aware of the fact that Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday. And this year will be extra special with the official launch of The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series: Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love and the companion Study Guides.

Lori Wildenberg, my co-author, and I are sharing the LOVE with over $400.00 worth of give-aways: books, jewelry, and one-on-one parent coaching. To be eligible for the gifts, comment on one or more of the 1C13P blog posts during the month of February. Winners will be randomly drawn each Friday and notified via email. The prizes are fabulous. There is jewelry created exclusively for 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting by The Son’s Rayes, copies of  Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love, and coaching sessions. If you haven’t already become a subscriber, I highly encourage you to do so. There are 22 members currently on the 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team, experts in their fields of parenting, marriage, education, and more.

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Don’t miss the special give-aways this month!

Connect with 1C13P on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest. Invite your family and friends too! Share the LOVE all month.

Blessed by you,
xo Becky

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7

That’s what LOVE is…

 

Tales of Tattling

Tales of Tattling“Mom, Johnny is ….”

“Dad, tell Whitney to stop…”

“She touched me!”

“He looked at me!”

Tattling… it’s enough to drive a parent crazy.

But telling can be good.

What’s the difference?

To get a handle on tattling and to train children to tell, they need to know the difference. “Telling is a report that gets someone out of a harmful or hurtful situation. Tattling s a means to hurt the person being reported.”Tattling is meant to get a person into trouble. Telling is to assist in getting someone out of trouble.

Here are two examples.

1. Billy and Sydney are playing Legos when all of a sudden Billy comes dashing to his dad, “Sydney is being mean. Tell her to stop using the yellow Legos. I want the yellow Legos. “  Billy’s comments are meant to get the other child in trouble. This is tattling.

2. Big sister Ava is reading a book and notices her younger brother playing with matches on the hearth.  She comes running to her mom, “Mommy, Sammy found a matchbox by the fireplace and is playing with the matches.” This little girl is telling to keep her brother safe.

The best response is to ask a question, “Will what you’re going to tell me get someone in trouble or out of trouble?” Children will be able to discern the difference quickly. Praise the child who notices and comes alongside someone in need.

Some kids are police officers at heart, making sure their siblings and friends are sticking to the rules. Others will tattle if it improves their own situation. Children will learn the difference of tattling and telling if Mom and Dad take the time to explain the difference and then when a situation arises. Ask the question, ”Will what you’re going to tell me get someone in trouble or out of trouble?”

How do you squelch tattling at your house?

…those who would harm me talk of my ruin; all day long they scheme and lie.
Proverbs 38:12b NLT

1. Lori Wildenberg & Becky Danielson, Raising Little Kids with Big Love, Friendswood: Bold Vision Books, 2014, p. 152.

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Bible Basics for Big Kids

Bible Basics for Big KidsThe text read, “Mom-can you talk?”

When a message arrives from a college kid with a request to talk, a mama drops everything and texts back, “Yes!”

The phone rang a few minutes later. ”Mom, I’m really stressed out about finals.”

We talked for a few minutes about how he was studying for his exams, getting enough rest, and eating right. I asked him when was the last time he prayed. There was a long pause before he answered, “About 20 minutes ago.” I had to smile and I think God smiled too. He fell back on prayer when he needed help.

Like I wrote last week in Bible Basics for Little Kids, “Many parents in 1 Corinthians 13 Parent classes don’t feel well-equipped to lead their families in faith matters. Let me reassure you…you do not have to be a theologian. You do not have to be a bible study teacher. You are not required to have all the answers. No one does.” I struggled to figure out the how-tos as a parent, especially with teenagers.

Fitting in faith lessons can be difficult as kids mature. Life seems to accelerate. Everyday is spent in the fast lane with homework, sports, and activities. Quiet evenings with preschoolers and elementary age children are in the past. As parents we pray we’ve guided our kids to develop faith habits that will last a lifetime.

Foundational faith practices, praying and reading the Word of God, are habits kids can fall back on in times of need and celebration. The more kids know, the more they have to rely on. BUT…if you haven’t studied the Bible with your tweens and teens it’s NOT too late! Here are a few suggestions for weaving the Word into your daily family life.

Bible Basics for Big Kids
1. Choose a daily devotional that includes Bible verses. The real-life stories will capture interest. The scripture will encourage.
2. Use a concordance to find specific verses to meet the needs of your tween/teen. For example, anxiety is the focus in Philippians 4:6, Hebrews 13:5-6, and Luke 12:22-31.
3. Post verses on the bathroom mirror to equip and encourage your kids. 

“Parents are number one in leading youth to Christ.”The Bible is our parenting tool. Learn alongside your child. Chapter 10 in Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love includes many tips and ideas for sharing biblical truth with tweens and teens.

As the rain and the snow come down from heaven,
and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish,
so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater,
so is my word that goes out from my mouth:
It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire 
and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.
Isaiah 55:10-11

1. Lori Wildenberg & Becky Danielson, Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love, Friendswood: Bold Vision Books, 2014, p. 172.

The ideas are from the 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series. More tips and strategies for training children, tweens, and teens in the Word of God can be found in Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love.

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Bible Basics for Little Kids

Bible Basics for Little KidsHow well do your children know God’s Guidebook for life? How well do you as a parent know the Word of God? Many parents in 1 Corinthians 13 Parent classes don’t feel well-equipped to lead their families in faith matters. Let me reassure you…you do not have to be a theologian. You do not have to be a bible study teacher. You are not required to have all the answers. No one does.

Scott and I were in the same boat. (And still are at times with our big kids!) Early on as parents with little children, we decided we needed to learn as a family, depend on our church for support, and accept the fact there would be questions from the boys we couldn’t answer. 

The B.I.B.L.E., basic instructions before leaving earth, is a roadmap, instruction book, and communication tool all rolled into one. How to live and how to be in relationship and communicate with God and others are all included in this bestselling book.

The Bible is 100% true. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work (2 Timothy 3:16-17). Reading the Word of God with children from an early age provides a solid foundation in faith. The lessons learned today will translate into truth for the future when the going gets rough. When Mom and Dad lean on God and scripture, children will learn to do the same.

Bible Basics for Little Kids
1. Find a good time that works for your family. Try out a few different times of day; bedtime, breakfast, after dinner.
2. Begin with stories. Throughout the New Testament Jesus taught in parables and stories. He asked questions too. Follow His example.
3. Short people = short lessons. The younger the child, the shorter the verse or scripture lesson. 

Lead your little ones in truth with a biblical worldview. Spend time in the Word of God to teach children about the One who created and loves them. Seek wisdom as a family through Bible study and prayer.

The law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul.
The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy, making wise the simple.
The precepts of the LORD are right, giving joy to the heart.
The commands of the LORD are radiant, giving light to the eyes.
The fear of the LORD is pure, enduring forever.
The ordinances of the LORD are sure and altogether righteous.
They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold;
they are sweeter than honey, than honey from the comb.
Psalm 19:7-10
 

The ideas are from the 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series. More tips and strategies for training children, tweens, and teens in the Word of God can be found in Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love.

Join in next week for tips on bible study with big kids!

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Point to Prayer

Point to PrayerPrayer provides peace for the people of God, providing a sanctuary in moments of fear, doubt, and crisis. Prayer also gives us the power to go on. “The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace (Psalm 29:11 NIV). Peace is exactly what families need today. That peace comes through prayer.

As a parent, I have prayed for years for protection, discernment, wisdom, … a whole host of requests for my children. Paul reminds us in Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” He writes not to be anxious about anything, not just some things. God wants to hear it all. What in your life makes you fearful rather than faith-filled? Fear envelops faith if allowed to persist. 

Because of Jesus’s gift to mankind on the cross, the curtain was torn in two allowing believers access to the throne room of the Most High. No prayer is insignificant. No request too small or too large. We need not go it alone. In our “I can do all things” society, we often forget Who can do all things. This is an important lesson for parents to teach their children.

Think of a relationship you treasure; your spouse, child, parent, friend. No doubt you enjoy spending time with this person, sharing life experiences. A relationship with the Lord is the same, a shared time of communication, speaking and listening, sometimes asking the hard questions.

Along with the Bible, prayer is our main tool for conversing with the Lord. Children are wired for prayer. Betty Shannon Cloyd writes in Children and Prayer: A Shared Pilgrimage, of a study conducted by Dr. Robert Coles. Children in a variety of social, economic, cultural, geographic, and religious backgrounds were interviewed regarding their understanding of God. Dr. Coles’ findings were amazing. He concluded children everywhere “have a deep awareness of God and the spiritual life.”1 Betty Shannon Cloyd goes on to tell of her own ministry to children and the deep connection and trust she witnessed between children and God. “In child-like faith, they present their needs to God trusting in a God who is able and willing to answer.”2

Nurture and assist your children in developing a desire to draw near to the Lord in prayer. One of the most powerful ways this can be done is through modeling prayer. Children may not do as we say but they always do as we do. If a parent prays, children will pray. This becomes a natural part of family life. My husband, Scott, and I have daily prayed for our boys as they leave for school. Even on hurried mornings, they waited to be blessed before heading out the door.  “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them” (Matthew 18:20).

Mark your day with prayer. Emergency arrow prayers, rote memorization, prayers of thanksgiving, and requests for forgiveness can punctuate the day’s activities. End the day with prayer too. Children learn conversing with God matters.

There are many prayer models available to teach children to pray. In our 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting classes, Lori and I train parents to use a variety of prayer models with their children. Here are some suggestions.

• The ACTS (adoration, confession, thanksgiving, supplication) covers all the bases. Children learn first to adore God by listing His attributes. Confession clears to way for earnest prayer. A thankful heart takes into consideration all God has provided before the requests begin. The relationship grows and God is not easily taken for granted when the scope of prayer is broad and worshipful as compared to a laundry list of wants.
Memorized prayers infuse prayer into a child’s day. “Rote prayers are a simple way for young children to pray. By age four, a child can begin to use his own words to speak with God. Teaching a child to pray is valuable. You amy not always be able to be there for your child, but God is.”3 Additional suggestions for leading your child in prayer can be found in Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love.
Body prayers allow for a kinesthetic experience for children. Touch the mouth and pray for kind words to be spoken, the eyes to see those in need, the hands to help others, the ears to hear God’s voice, the heart to be open to Jesus and so on.
• Anxious days (new school, spelling test, etc.) call for the Alphabet Prayer. Listing God’s attributes in alphabetical order puts a burdened mind in a different place. Focusing on the goodness of God pushes worry out of the way.
Scripture is a wonderful tool to use in prayer with children. Use the concordance to find the area in which your child is struggling. For example, Psalm 4:8 can be used at bedtime to alleviate fear by inserting the child’s name into the text. “In peace Anna will lie down and sleep, for you alone, LORD, make Anna dwell in safety. Amen”

Prayer is a gift from God to deepen our faith and to allow us to draw near to the Lord. As children are taught that Jesus is our Intercessor, they realize the great love of their Savior. He hears every word. Comfort and peace comes from believing the Lord of the universe cares enough and loves so much as to listen to the quiet prayers of a child.

The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace.
Psalm 29:11 NIV 

Notes
1. Betty Shannon Cloyd Children and Prayer: A Shared Pilgrimage (Nashville: The Upper Room, 1997) 19.
2. ibid, 21.
3. Lori Wildenberg & Becky Danielson, M.Ed. Raising Little Kids with Big Love (Friendswood, Bold Vision Books, 2014) 159.

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The Smile Business at Christmastime

The Smile Business at ChristmastimeChristmas Eve was not a typical day at my house as a child. Festive? Yes. Busy?  Definitely. Purposeful? Absolutely.

The day began early with preparations for the annual Christmas Eve deliveries. Sturdy paper plates were piled high with delicious cookies. Jars of homemade pickled herring were decorated with bows. My dad’s smoked chickens were labeled with heating instructions. My mom’s freshly baked Swedish coffeecake was wrapped tightly. All of the gifts were loaded into the back of my family’s red Suburban, appropriately nicknamed, Rudolph. We would be off, singing “Jingle Bells” and laughing all the way.

Mom was the navigator with “The List” in hand, directing Dad to the next drop-off location. Through his family dental practice, my dad knew of many older patients without children and shut-ins that would be celebrating alone. We would make 25-30 stops on Christmas Eve to brighten the spirits of these lonely, lovely people. Dad would often dress as Santa Claus with the three of us kids as his elves. The recipients of our Christmas treats were never fooled by his costume. They’d come to the door with smiles and hugs for each of us. Many times the visits were punctuated with tears, joyful tears, because they were not forgotten.

I remember the year I realized the impact of my parent’s choice to serve others on Christmas Eve. Rather than hanging our stockings with care knowing they would be filled with trinkets and treasures, we served others quietly sharing the real Reason for the Season. We were the hands and feet of Jesus, purposely giving rather than focusing on what we’d be receiving. 

And we were blessed! Around my grandparent’s dinner table, we’d enjoy a delicious meal and tell about our day. The man with the cute dog who was so glad to see us, the woman who was waiting, watching out her front window hoping we’d remember her as in years past. The couple whose children lived far away couldn’t be with them, standing on their front steps in the cold and crying, hugging, and thanking my parents for the holiday treats.

As an adult, I’m so grateful my parents took the time to make Christmas about giving, not receiving. I have such fond memories of our family Christmas Eve “sleigh ride” to deliver smiles to those who were lonely. My whole family was in the smile business on Christmas Eve!

Light in a messenger’s eyes brings joy to the heart…
Proverbs 15:30a

How do you reach out to those who are lonely at Christmastime, sharing the Light? 

Parenting Unchained

10264495_821695001226037_8549450350683278683_nWhen I find a book that really speaks to me, I share it with you. Lori Wildenberg, my ministry partner, and I have had the honor of working with Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, founders of the National Center for Biblical Parenting. Lori and I were on the NCBP team at an Association of Marriage and Family Ministries conference. I highly recommend the NCBP resources, including the newly released Parenting Unchained: Overcoming the Ten Deceptions that Shackle Christian Parents by Dr. James D. Dempsey.

Parenting Unchained takes a close look at ten lies parents fall for when raising children. Jim writes from his own experience as a parent with honesty. His transparency in sharing his personal journey of faith and parenting gives moms and dads true-to-life examples of how misconceptions and straight out lies can cloud the way one sees the world.

The chapters in Parenting Unchained address the ten deceptions, drawing on scripture. Each deception is followed by powerful parenting truths, taken from the Word of God, the best parenting book. This makes not only for an educational read but one filled with hope. We don’t have to believe the lies and we don’t have to parent alone.

The concepts laid out in Parenting Unchained are easy to understand and thought-provoking. The Home Activities are practical options for families to put the concepts into play. Parenting Unchained can be used as an individual, couple or small group study.

Really, every parent desires to raise good kids. This book will help guide parents raise great kids, with a heart for the Lord while building strong relationships within the family.

Jim10801562_820555544673316_3857179896950506741_nJoin Dr. James D. Dempsey and the Center for Biblical Parenting Team on Thursday, December 11 for the Facebook Release Party!

Find the book on Amazon or at the National Center for Biblical Parenting

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