Wrap Holy Week in Faith

Wrap Holy Week in Faith 2Holy Week begins on Palm Sunday, March 29. How will this Easter be more faith-filled for you and your family? According to a Barna Study, two out of three Americans recognize Easter as a religious holiday, and less than half, 42 percent, connect Easter with the resurrection of Christ.

Holy Week provides time to walk children through the death and resurrection of Christ. Use the Word of God to lay the framework for the week. Read Luke 19:28-38 before attending the Palm Sunday service. On Good Friday, read Mark 14:22-26 to prepare for Communion. John, chapters 18-20:18, tell of the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. Make a point this year of making Easter all about the Savior by using the Bible as a teaching tool.

The 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team has a Passion Week activity booklet for families to wrap faith into the week. Download this free resource, No Greater Gift: A Family Guide for Celebrating Passion Week and the Resurrection. Focus on Easter as a true holy-day rather than just a another holiday. 

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Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.
Romans 10:13 & Acts 2:21

Pompeii Pizzeria

Pompeii Pizzeria

Scott, the boys, and I love to try new restaurants, especially local establishments. When we travel, we choose small town diners over fast food and chain restaurants to get a feel for the local flavor. Typically I order the special of the day. The thought process is that the chef probably has concocted something new and delicious with in- season fruits and vegetables or a special cut of meat. Ninety-nine percent of the time the entrees have been winners. (I would not recommend cuttlefish prepared in it’s own ink. Trust me on this one!)

This brings me to a new favorite pizzeria. A local magazine had an intriguing article listing their picks for the top 12 pizzas parlors. Scott and I decided to try out Pompeii Pizzeria with one of our two boys. The restaurant is located in a historic building in downtown Elk River, Minnesota.

IMG_2700Pompeii Pizzeria is casual, good for families with kids. Just order at the counter and find a table. The glass window separating customers from the chef makes for good entertainment for the kids.

We ordered a Pompeii Salad, the Roman Pizza and a Napoli Pizza. The salad had a balsamic vinegarette and was loaded with pistachios, Parmesan cheese, and prosciutto. Delicious! The pizzas are prepared in a wood fire oven from homemade dough with fresh mozzarella, made daily. All three of us vowed to go back! With the standbys on the menu, Pompeii Pizzeria also offers seasonal topping combinations.

Pompeii Pizzeria at 315 Jackson Street in Elk River a definite winner from Faith First Foodie!

Dining out is a GREAT way for kids to practice their manners! For more on children and manners, click HERE.

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Five Tips for Helping Kids Mind Their Manners

Five Tips for Helping Kids Mind Their MannersManners start at home. Restaurants give children a place to practice their polite table manners. Before leaving home for a meal out, give your children a quick run-down on the expectations you have for dinner. Consider the type of dining you’re doing. Dinner at at sit down establishment will be different than a fast food meal. Either way, manners matter.

Actions are powerful, so both good manners and poor manners stand out, and good manners win. Really, would you rather hang out with a friend who is polite or rude? Society may focus on the crass and unruly, but respect and polite behavior will always be in style

Teaching manners goes far beyond please and thank you. And it is not one of those lessons a parent can just check off the “To Do List” like shoe tying instructions. If might take a long time to master the skill but once the shoes can be tied, the kid is on his way. Manner lessons go on, and on, and on. Even with teenagers, it’s a continual time of coaching.

Five Tips for Helping Kids Mind Their Manners

1. Give directions in the positive. For example, “Please take your elbows off the table.” rather than “Don’t put your elbows on the table.”
2. Praise success. A little positive reinforcement can go a long way in strengthening a child’s desire to do well.
3. Verbalize your expectations. “We are having dinner at Grandma’s house tonight. I expect you to sit and the table, eat with a fork and use a quiet voice.” Children generally desire to live up to Mom and Dad’s expectations.
4. With younger children, focus on one manner at a time. Concentrate on table manners then move to phone manners. Be tolerant of lapses, but don’t overlook them. Use slip ups as teachable moments.
5. Make it fun! When my boys were little, I would pretend to be the rude friend that came for lunch and broke every rule in the book; elbows on the table, speaking with my mouth full, napkin left on the table, reaching across others for food. The boys would laugh themselves silly. Then we’d talk about what a polite guest looks like as compared to the rude friend.

Make polite manners part of what your family does everyday. 

The next two weeks Faith First Foodie will be highlighting two fun restaurants for families. What’s your favorite place to eat out with the kids?

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Somebody Needs to Hear…Tricia Goyer

Friends,
Tricia Goyer, a woman with a heart of gold, is guest posting today at Faith First Parent with her new book, Teen Mom: You’re Stronger Than You Think. Tricia is a wife, mom of five, grandmother of two, and the author of more than 50 books. She mentors young moms and serves “ordinary women by encouraging them to do extraordinary things with God’s help.”

I’ve participated in book launches with Tricia in the past including Lead Your Family Like Jesus (Ken Blanchard, Tricia Goyer, Phil Hodges), Balanced, and Whit’s End Mealtime Devotions (Jon Avery Whitaker, Crystal Bowman, Tricia Goyer). Lori and I were honored to have her write the foreword for Raising Little Kids with Big Love.
Be blessed by Tricia’s words and insight,
xo Becky

Somebody Needs to Hear...Tricia GoyerSomebody Needs to Hear 

Last night I sat in a small support group of teenage mothers, and one brave young woman, Liz, walked to the front of the room.

“Guys, I usually sit there among you, but I asked Miss Tricia if I could share. You see, I’ve started this journey with Jesus, and I have to share all the amazing things God has done for me.”

Less than four months ago Liz showed up at our group with a dump truck of sin weighing down her heart. She was so ashamed of her recent mistakes that she’d missed many meetings. Yet a glimmer of hope stirred inside. Go to them, and ask for prayer; maybe they’ll still love you.

The first night back, Liz took me aside, and we found a quiet room. She poured out her heart, and I cried along with her. Then she prayed and accepted Christ in her heart.

As I led her in that prayer I could feel the weights lifting: pain, shame, disgrace . . . they were boulders being hurled from her back. We stood and embraced, and the light on her face reflected the transformation in her heart. She prayed and asked God to take over, and He did. Man, how He did!

“You’ll never believe all God’s done for me. He’s provided people to care for me, to mentor me, and He’s taken care of all my needs and the needs of my two kids.” Liz walked away from unhealthy relationships and discovered a community of Christians to care. She’s a different mom, a different student, a different friend.

“If you want to join me on my journey, call me whenever you want or text me. Come over and we’ll read the Bible together. There’s so much He has for you.”

And as I sat and listened with tears in my eyes, I realized that every moment I’ve spent volunteering in these teen mom support groups was worth it. It was worth it because Liz is worth it . . . and so is every other young mom who needs to hear the truth of Jesus’ love.

I’ve been honored to watch these stories of transformation unfold, but that’s only happened because deep down I knew there was someone out there who needed to hear. There is someone in your community who needs to hear, too. Someone who feels alone. Someone who feels unworthy. Someone who feels ashamed.

Somebody needs to hear . . . they are worth your time.
Somebody needs to hear . . . that God’s grace is for them.
Somebody needs to hear . . . that their darkest sins are not too dark for God’s light.
Somebody needs to hear . . . there is hope.
Somebody needs to hear . . . peace can come.
Somebody needs to hear . . . about a second chance through Jesus.

But before they can hear all those things, they must hear something from you first. Things like:
Do you want to meet for coffee?
 How can I help you?
What do you need most right now?
 What’s your story?
Do you want to hear how I’ve messed up? 
Do you want to hear what God did?

People need to hear about Jesus, and it’s hard to take the time, energy, and even money to make that a priority.

As I leave home and drive to our Thursday night meetings, I’m lucky if I’ve slapped together peanut butter and jelly for my husband and kids. I’ve stepped out of movies to take desperate phone calls. I’ve bought food, diapers, and door prizes to draw in the young women who need help, and I’ve asked myself, “Will they ever understand?” when it seems like they won’t.

But I continue because I know that someone needs to hear . . . and if I don’t tell them who will?

I also remember being the one who needed to hear about Jesus’ love and forgiveness when I was a soon-to-be mom at age 17. Somebody talked to me, and it cost them, too. Was it worth the cost? Was I worth the cost? I feel it was. I feel I am.

“Take up your cross and follow me,” Jesus said, and in 2015 that looks a little different than what it did in Jesus’ day. It might mean asking a friend to drive your child to t-ball practice, or walking away from that pile of dishes, or spending hard-earned cash to hire a babysitter for two hours so you can take someone out to just talk.

Sacrifice is sacrifice, big or small. But transformation is TRANSFORMATION in the lives Jesus touches through you. Without us stepping out and doing our part, who’s going to tell them? Who’s going to tell her?

And without being told how, will they know Who to follow?

And if they don’t know Who do follow, where will they wander? Into sin, pain, darkness, shame and regret. It’s easier to shake our head at their choices than to reach out an be a friend. Because it costs us something, doesn’t it?

Will you do it? Will you speak? Will you give? Will you love?

tricia-looks-up-2-2209USA Today bestselling author Tricia Goyer is the author of more than 50 books, including the novelization for Moms’ Night Out. She has written over 500 articles for national publications and blogs for high traffic sites like TheBetterMom.com and MomLifeToday.com. Tricia and her husband, John, live in Little Rock, Arkansas, where Tricia coordinates a Teen MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group. They have six children. teen-mom-3dcover

Top 10 Sleep Tips for Kids…and Parents

Top 10 Sleep Tips for Kids...and ParentsIn regard to attitude, health and general well being nothing beats a good night sleep. I know at my house when we are not getting enough of the old shut eye things deteriorate quickly; tempers are quick to flare, work doesn’t get done and we all usually end up sick.

Rest is important! Even God rested after creating the universe.

How much is rest enough for our children? Generally speaking, babies need 14-15 hours of sleep per day, with sleep patterns beginning to be established at 4-5 months. Your baby’s three naps a day will typically decrease to two afternoon naps around 6 months. Toddlers need 12-14 hours of sleep per night with one nap during the day. Work your schedule around nap time. For the preschool crowd, ten to twelve hours of sleep are recommended.

In matters of rest, consistency helps. Determine a bedtime and try to stick to it. Your child’s internal clock will develop a pattern, which is exactly what is needed.

As children grow, a proper amount of sleep is necessary. Bodies are growing! Elementary school age children should be getting 10-11 hours a night and your teen still needs 8-9 hours to be fully rested. And sometimes more. If you have teens, you know exactly what I mean.

Top 10 Sleep Tips for Kids…and Parents

1. Develop a routine and keep it consistent. (Jammies on, teeth brushed, reading time, prayers, and kisses.) Include a time for quiet activities 30 minutes before bedtime to “set the stage” for bedtime.

2. Stick to a consistent bedtime.

3. Make your child’s bedroom a quiet and comfortable place to sleep.

4. Use the bed only for sleeping. Do not put a TV or computer in your child’s bedroom.

5. Limit food and drink before bedtime.

6. If your child has difficulty falling asleep, read books about bedtime. Have a cuddly friend (stuffed animal) that is really tired join in the story time.

7. Play soft music. This masks other household noise and is soothing.

8. Tuck your child into bed snugly for a feeling of security, using Scripture to remind your child of the Lord’s constant care.

9. Move bedtime by ten minutes each night to accommodate Daylight Savings Time on March 8, 2015.

10. Get to bed at a reasonable hour yourself. You’ll feel great and be better prepared for the day ahead.

In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety. 
Psalm 4:8

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The Proverbs Challenge for Lent

The Proverbs ChallengeToday is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of Lent. It’s a time to prepare our hearts and minds for Passion Week and Easter, ultimately growing closer to God. Many people give up something for Lent (chocolate, television, etc.) as a form of fasting. Sacrificing an item, pleasure or bad habit helps us to turn to ward God.

If you’ve chosen to not partake in an indulgence or give up a habit during Lent, great! But I’m proposing you and your family add something this year too. Dive into the Word of God.

Join me in the Proverbs Challenge! There are 31 chapters in Proverbs. Read a chapter a day with your family. This will take you right up to Holy Week, beginning on Palm Sunday.

Start the Proverbs Challenge with downloading the schedule and finding a time that works for your spouse and children. When Ryan and Eric were young, breakfast was our time for Bible study and devotions. A hot breakfast was the carrot! Maybe dinnertime or bedtime will be better for your family.

Today’s activity is from 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting to help us realize who we are as Christians. The activity is described on today’s post. You can link to the Ash Wednesday post and printable HERE.

Take turns reading the chapters or verses. Make the wise words into a prayer. For example, from Proverbs 1:2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding…  Lord, allow ______ to listen to Your Word, to attain wisdom and knowledge, to understand words of insight. Insert family members’ names into the prayer, or include the whole family by using “us” and “we”.

On Sundays, discuss where you’ve seen God move in the lives of your family members. What have your children learned about God’s Word? In what ways have each of you grown in wisdom and knowledge? Were there opportunities to tell other about God?

The Proverbs Challenge Schedule

February 18 Download A Christian’s Identity in Christ 
from 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
February 19 Proverbs 1
February 20 Proverbs 2
February 21 Proverbs 3
February 22  Sunday
February 23 Proverbs 4
February 24 Proverbs 5
February 25 Proverbs 6
February 26 Proverbs 7
February 27 Plant a Resurrection Garden
Directions will be posted at 1Corinthians13Parenting on February 27!
February 28 Proverbs 8
March 1   Sunday
March 2 Proverbs 9
March 3 Proverbs 10
March 4 Proverbs 11
March 5 Proverbs 12
March 6 Proverbs 13
March 7 Proverbs 14
March 8   Sunday
March 9 Proverbs 15
March 10 Proverbs 16
March 11 Proverbs 17
March 12 Proverbs 18
March 13 Proverbs 19
March 14 Proverbs 20
March 15   Sunday
March 16 Proverbs 21
March 17 Proverbs 22
March 18 Proverbs 23
March 19 Proverbs 24
March 20 Proverbs 25
March 21 Proverbs 26
March 22       Sunday
March 23 Proverbs 27
March 24 Proverbs 28
March 25 Proverbs 29
March 26 Proverbs 30
March 27 Proverbs 31
March 28 Download the Holy Week Guide,
No Greater Gift: A Family Guide to Passion Week and the Resurrection,
from 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting
March 29       Palm Sunday

The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: 
for attaining wisdom and discipline;
for understanding words of insight; 
for acquiring a disciplined and prudent life,
doing what is right and just and fair; 
for giving prudence to the simple,
knowledge and discretion to the young– 
let the wise listen and add to their learning,
and let the discerning get guidance– 
for understanding proverbs and parables,
the sayings and riddles of the wise. 
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge,
but fools despise wisdom and discipline.

Proverbs 1:1-7

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Valentine’s Day, a time to celebrate with family and friends we love. Download this printable, Love is patient, love is kind, to share with your family this Valentine’s Day.

May your day be filled with faith, hope, and love,
xo Becky

Love is Patient Valentine


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LAUNCHING… The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series

1C13P Series Launch Dear friends,
Those of you who know me well are aware of the fact that Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday. And this year will be extra special with the official launch of The 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series: Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love and the companion Study Guides.

Lori Wildenberg, my co-author, and I are sharing the LOVE with over $400.00 worth of give-aways: books, jewelry, and one-on-one parent coaching. To be eligible for the gifts, comment on one or more of the 1C13P blog posts during the month of February. Winners will be randomly drawn each Friday and notified via email. The prizes are fabulous. There is jewelry created exclusively for 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting by The Son’s Rayes, copies of  Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love, and coaching sessions. If you haven’t already become a subscriber, I highly encourage you to do so. There are 22 members currently on the 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting Team, experts in their fields of parenting, marriage, education, and more.

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Don’t miss the special give-aways this month!

Connect with 1C13P on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest. Invite your family and friends too! Share the LOVE all month.

Blessed by you,
xo Becky

Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,
it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7

That’s what LOVE is…

 

Tales of Tattling

Tales of Tattling“Mom, Johnny is ….”

“Dad, tell Whitney to stop…”

“She touched me!”

“He looked at me!”

Tattling… it’s enough to drive a parent crazy.

But telling can be good.

What’s the difference?

To get a handle on tattling and to train children to tell, they need to know the difference. “Telling is a report that gets someone out of a harmful or hurtful situation. Tattling s a means to hurt the person being reported.”Tattling is meant to get a person into trouble. Telling is to assist in getting someone out of trouble.

Here are two examples.

1. Billy and Sydney are playing Legos when all of a sudden Billy comes dashing to his dad, “Sydney is being mean. Tell her to stop using the yellow Legos. I want the yellow Legos. “  Billy’s comments are meant to get the other child in trouble. This is tattling.

2. Big sister Ava is reading a book and notices her younger brother playing with matches on the hearth.  She comes running to her mom, “Mommy, Sammy found a matchbox by the fireplace and is playing with the matches.” This little girl is telling to keep her brother safe.

The best response is to ask a question, “Will what you’re going to tell me get someone in trouble or out of trouble?” Children will be able to discern the difference quickly. Praise the child who notices and comes alongside someone in need.

Some kids are police officers at heart, making sure their siblings and friends are sticking to the rules. Others will tattle if it improves their own situation. Children will learn the difference of tattling and telling if Mom and Dad take the time to explain the difference and then when a situation arises. Ask the question, ”Will what you’re going to tell me get someone in trouble or out of trouble?”

How do you squelch tattling at your house?

…those who would harm me talk of my ruin; all day long they scheme and lie.
Proverbs 38:12b NLT

1. Lori Wildenberg & Becky Danielson, Raising Little Kids with Big Love, Friendswood: Bold Vision Books, 2014, p. 152.

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Bible Basics for Big Kids

Bible Basics for Big KidsThe text read, “Mom-can you talk?”

When a message arrives from a college kid with a request to talk, a mama drops everything and texts back, “Yes!”

The phone rang a few minutes later. ”Mom, I’m really stressed out about finals.”

We talked for a few minutes about how he was studying for his exams, getting enough rest, and eating right. I asked him when was the last time he prayed. There was a long pause before he answered, “About 20 minutes ago.” I had to smile and I think God smiled too. He fell back on prayer when he needed help.

Like I wrote last week in Bible Basics for Little Kids, “Many parents in 1 Corinthians 13 Parent classes don’t feel well-equipped to lead their families in faith matters. Let me reassure you…you do not have to be a theologian. You do not have to be a bible study teacher. You are not required to have all the answers. No one does.” I struggled to figure out the how-tos as a parent, especially with teenagers.

Fitting in faith lessons can be difficult as kids mature. Life seems to accelerate. Everyday is spent in the fast lane with homework, sports, and activities. Quiet evenings with preschoolers and elementary age children are in the past. As parents we pray we’ve guided our kids to develop faith habits that will last a lifetime.

Foundational faith practices, praying and reading the Word of God, are habits kids can fall back on in times of need and celebration. The more kids know, the more they have to rely on. BUT…if you haven’t studied the Bible with your tweens and teens it’s NOT too late! Here are a few suggestions for weaving the Word into your daily family life.

Bible Basics for Big Kids
1. Choose a daily devotional that includes Bible verses. The real-life stories will capture interest. The scripture will encourage.
2. Use a concordance to find specific verses to meet the needs of your tween/teen. For example, anxiety is the focus in Philippians 4:6, Hebrews 13:5-6, and Luke 12:22-31.
3. Post verses on the bathroom mirror to equip and encourage your kids. 

“Parents are number one in leading youth to Christ.”The Bible is our parenting tool. Learn alongside your child. Chapter 10 in Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love includes many tips and ideas for sharing biblical truth with tweens and teens.

As the rain and the snow come down from heaven,
and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish,
so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater,
so is my word that goes out from my mouth:
It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire 
and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.
Isaiah 55:10-11

1. Lori Wildenberg & Becky Danielson, Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love, Friendswood: Bold Vision Books, 2014, p. 172.

The ideas are from the 1 Corinthians 13 Parent Series. More tips and strategies for training children, tweens, and teens in the Word of God can be found in Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love.

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